Chapters 10 and 11

The final two chapters of The Boy who was Raised as a Dog seem to summarize the ideas that Dr. Perry believe are the key to helping disadvantaged children. Chapter ten is titled The Kindness of Children and it involves a little boy named Peter and his adoptive parents Amy and Jason. Amy and Jason adopted Peter from a Russian orphanage when he was three-years old. Peter was seven when his parents took him to see Dr. Perry. Peter had a history of speech and language problems as well as challenges with attention and impulsivity. Peter also had some social and academic challenges in school.

The orphanage that Peter lived in for the first three years of his life could be equated to a warehouse filled with children. The room he lived in had about sixty children in it with two caretakers on shift every eight hours. The children there received no individual attention from adults. They were essentially caged in cribs. The children in the orphanage turned to each other and somewhat became parents to each other. They would hold hands through the bars of their cribs they even created their own type of language to communicate with each other. It was probably the interaction that the children had with each other that helped limit the damage that occurred in Peter and the other children.

When Jason and Amy adopted Peter, they knew that they would have to provide extensive help for Peter. Once in the United States, Peter worked with speech and language therapists, occupational therapists, physical therapists, and mental health providers to help him develop more normally. Peter had improved dramatically over the four years he had lived with his parents but the progress was very slow. Amy and Jason took Peter to Dr. Perry after he seemed to plateau once he started school. Peter had a somewhat fragmented development. In some aspects Peter was a seven-year-old boy, but in other developmental aspects he was still a toddler. This fragmented development made it extremely difficult to parent Peter because Amy and Jason often had to shift their parenting strategies with Peter.

With this good foundation in place for Peter the subject of school needed to be broached. When Peter went to kindergarten, he had a very hard time because the other children did not understand Peter’s bizarre behavior. Peter didn’t understand the social cues that take place in a classroom and because of his behavior he was marginalized in school. This seemingly very difficult situation regarding school and Peter’s interactions with his peers actually wound up being the best treatment for him. Dr. Perry decided that he wanted to try to make Peter’s class into therapists for him. Dr. Perry and Peter went to Peter’s first grade class and taught the students a little bit about the brain and how it develops as you are growing. Dr. Perry then explained Peter’s situation to the class and explained that the beginning of Peter’s life was very different than the beginning of their lives. Dr. Perry explained that Peter’s brain didn’t start learning all the things it should have until he went to live with his parents and Perry asked them if they would just be Peter’s friend because Peter learns so much from playing and being around them.

This conversation with first graders was instrumental in changing the way that Peter was viewed by his classmates. The students essentially provided therapeutic experiences and helped Peter to catch up to them developmentally. All people fear something that they do not understand. With this new understanding of Peter’s unique situation, the students worked to help Peter instead of ostracizing him. From every situation expressed in this book, Dr. Perry found that “relationships are the agents of change and the most powerful therapy is human love.”

The final chapter of The Boy who was Raised as a Dog is titled Healing Communities. In this chapter, Dr. Perry doesn’t present a case that he had seen; he essentially summarizes everything that he has learned as a child psychiatrist. It is in this chapter that I find the most compelling argument about what needs to be done in our society to help these children who have dealt with such trauma. Ultimately, relationships with people matter. These relationships are the single most important tool that is needed for healing to take place. Unfortunately, so many of the children that are the most likely to experience trauma are the least likely to have a supportive family and community. People need healthy relationships in order to be mentally healthy. People need to be shown love in order to learn how to love themselves and others. The system in America for dealing with abused and traumatized children is far from perfect. In fact, this system is wholly inadequate for handling the problem and they often hurt the situation more than they help the situation.

This is where the church can come into play. The relationship between the church and modern culture is very difficult. In this situation, I believe that Christians and the church have the ability to transform our culture into something that is helpful for these children. There are so many opportunities to help. You can start at the beginning, in an attempt to help prevent trauma, neglect, and abuse by changing the treatment of new parents and infants. A little bit of knowledge about the development of children and how to support parents can go a long way. Christians should help create the community that can help families when they need it. People can learn what to look for during development. Something as simple as knowing that a baby not crying at all should be just as much of a concern as a child that cries all the time. Our society needs to not just focus on the intellectual development of children but also on the emotional needs of these children. We should want to have future generations that are not just intelligent, but children that are able to reach their full potential in all aspects of their life.

The church should have a major focus on building relationships, not just for adults but also for children. Relationships are one of the most important aspects of life. Our brain is use dependent, if we do not use the emotional, relational parts of our brain, they will not continue to develop and will eventually whither away leaving an underdeveloped brain. Christians can help teach parents about how to raise children in order to help them reach their full potential. Christians can help the children who have experienced trauma, abuse, or neglect and help them to heal from their injuries, both physically and emotionally. The call of Christians is to love your neighbor and these children need love more than anything else. I believe wholeheartedly that Christians can help create a loving and caring community in order to prevent abuse from happening and also to help those who experience it to recover most fully.

Chapters 8 and 9

Chapter eight of The Boy who was Raised as a Dog features a seventeen-year old girl named Amber. Dr. Perry met Amber after she was found unconscious at her school. She had shallow breathing, a slow heart rate, and extremely low blood pressure. After she was taken to the hospital, her heart even stopped. The doctors in the ER ran many tests on her and found nothing wrong. She was simply unarousable. Dr. Perry then stepped in and began to ask Amber’s mom Jill about her life. It was from this discussion that Dr. Perry learned that Jill was a single mother was in a relationship about eight years ago with a man named Duane. Duane raped Amber from the ages of seven to nine. Once Jill found out about the rape she left Duane. Dr. Perry determined that the previous night Amber had answered the phone and it was Duane. He suggested a visit. Jill quickly took the phone and firmly stated that neither she nor Amber would ever have anything to do with him again. Dr. Perry also saw that Amber had been cutting herself and figured that she had entered a dissociative state and was essentially overdosing on her own opiates and the results were similar to a heroin overdose. Dr. Perry then suggested treating Amber with naloxone, an antidote for opiate overdoses. The other doctors eventually agreed to give Amber that drug and within two minutes Amber woke up.

Dr. Perry then began to talk to Amber and eventually became her doctor to help her with overcoming the trauma from earlier in her life. During therapy Amber eventually began to explain what would happen when she experienced abuse, and now when she thought about the abuse that happened to her. Amber said that she had been able to find a safe place in her head where she wouldn’t feel the pain anymore. Amber described being a raven, even though she wanted to be a more majestic bird. She described herself as the “Black Death.” The dissociative state that Amber experienced is another possible response to trauma. Some people become hyper-vigilant in response to trauma while other dissociate. From Amber, Dr. Perry and his colleagues learned a lot about the dissociative response to trauma. Even now, when something reminded Amber of Duane and her trauma she would dissociate. This was something that she was unable to control.

From this new knowledge of dissociative responses to trauma, Dr. Perry was able to find some possible drugs to help with unwanted dissociation. The drug naltrexone was first tried on a sixteen- year old boy named Ted. Ted had unpredictable fainting episodes that had no discernable medical treatment. Ted had been a witness to continual domestic violence in his house from an early age. Ted’s mother was beaten by his stepfather on a regular basis. It was so bad that Ted’s mom had been hospitalized many times from the abuse. When Ted got older he would try to protect his mom and was able to redirect his stepfather’s rage onto himself. Eventually, seeing her son being hurt, Ted’s mom left his stepfather. Ted’s fainting was caused by a dissociative response to anxiety in his life. The medicine stopped Ted’s fainting but he still needed therapy to help deal with the anxiety he experienced on a regular basis when he was unable to dissociate. Dr. Perry was able to help Ted find more productive ways to handle stress in his life.  The combination of the drug and the therapy Ted experienced, he was able to better handle stress in his life without dissociating.

Dr. Perry continued to work with Amber as well to help her learn how to cope with stress without hurting herself or dissociating. Amber saw herself as a black raven and she even got tattoos to represent how she saw herself. Amber later moved with her mom to Austin because of a job and no longer saw Dr. Perry. She later emailed Dr. Perry to tell him about her new tattoo that had no black in it. She also began to see herself as a blue raven instead of a black one. Slowly but surely Amber was able to work on her stress management and became a “healthy, productive young woman,” she went to college and graduated in four years.

Chapter nine of Dr. Perry’s book deals with an issue of Munchausen’s by proxy syndrome (MBPS). James, a six-year old boy had an interesting, and complex situation through which a judge referred James to Dr. Perry. James was adopted by his parents before his first birthday. Merle, James’ mother, described him as “incorrigible and uncontrollable” he supposedly repeatedly ran away from home, attempted suicide, and wet his bed. James was hospitalized many times, once after he jumped from the second story of a house. According to Merle, James was so terrible that she called CPS on herself claiming to be a worried neighbor. The final incident was an overdose that Landed James in the ICU. Many caseworkers and therapists believed that James had Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), which is marked by a lack of empathy and the inability to connect with others. The descriptions of James’ behavior by his mother seemed to fit a RAD diagnosis. There was a problem though, when James was in the hospital or a treatment center, he was very well behaved and didn’t express any of the symptoms of RAD. Even in school he was relatively well behaved.

Dr. Perry found that the behavior of James’ adoptive parents was very strange as well. They would often show up for appointments when they had been told not to and when Merle was interviewed she seemed entirely focused on herself. Dr. Perry then met with James and really liked him. He seemed to behave appropriately and laughed and joked. Stephanie, James’ primary clinician, felt the same way about James. From these interactions with James, Dr. Perry determined that there was no way James could have a real case of RAD. They then started to look closer at James’ records and found many discrepancies. It turns out that almost every time that James was in the hospital, the staff there was suspicious of Merle. She continuously had strange reactions to what was going on with James and never expressed any real concern about his wellbeing.

With this information, Dr. Perry realized that many of the accidents were not initiated by James. He didn’t jump from the second floor; he was pushed. He didn’t try to swallow a bottle of antidepressants; he was forced to swallow them. The doctors determined that James was only sick because Merle was making him that way. Merle framed James as “difficult” with “behavior problems” and any attempt by James to escape his situation was seen as evidence those problem behaviors. It was through the discovery that James’ parents were deliberately deceptive. It was from this information that the doctors concluded that Merle had MBPS, a disease where a person attempts to make another person sick in a ploy for attention and support. Merle lived for the attention she received for having a “sick” child. If Merle had been let to continue with her behavior, James would have probably died.

From Dr. Perry and his teams’ recommendation, James and his siblings were removed from Merle’s home. A jury later agreed that the children had been abused by their parents and their rights were terminated. James’ continuous actions that had been viewed as disruptive behavior were actually cries for help from other people. This case taught Dr. Perry the importance of listening to the child he is working with regardless of what other adults say about the situation.

These two chapters reminded me about our class discussions about disability. Though they do not seem explicitly related. I have found that often people do not trust the word of a child when they are abused. It almost seems as if many adults think that these children somehow have less value than other adults. It seems easy for adults to try to diagnose children with diseases, to stigmatize them, simply because they may have different challenges in life or they have different opinions than their parents. No one thinks it’s all right for a child to be abused but often these children’s voices are not heard. Their age makes their opinion matter less. This should not be the case. In Luke 18:15-17, Jesus states that the kingdom of God belongs to the children and that one must approach the kingdom of God like a child in order to be able to enter it. Jesus places so much value in children that I think is missed in society today. These chapters remind me that God’s ideas of value are often the opposite of what we believe them to be.

Chapter 7

Chapter seven of The Boy who was Raised as a Dog one amazing problem that Dr. Perry encountered during his practice. This issue involved memory and how it can be manipulated and coerced as with the issues with a supposed satanic cult in eastern Texas in 1993.

Chapter seven involves something that had been dubbed the “satanic panic” in Gilmer, Texas. At this point, scientists were just beginning to understand the malleability of memory. Dr. Perry equates memory with a Microsoft Word document, every time you “open” a memory it is automatically available to be edited. You essentially cannot retrieve a memory without editing your interpretation of that specific memory. Because of this malleability of memory, not a lot of coercion is required in order to change a memory, or even create a memory that never really happened. This coercion regarding memory is what happened with the satanic panic. Dr. Perry was called in to help after a seven-year old boy, Bobby Vernon Jr. was found to be in a coma after being punished by his recently adoptive parents. These parents committed suicide soon after. When EMS came to the adoptive parents home they determined from the other children in the home that Bobby was punished when he refused to continue to run up and down the stairs. The parents then beat the boy, only stopping when they realized he was unconscious. EMS said they would have to call CPS. EMS was then informed that the parents were employed by CPS. They were a “therapeutic” foster home for Satanic Ritual Abuse (SRA). CPS in west Texas then called CPS in east Texas where they confirmed the parents’ story. This family had moved from east Texas to get away from an apparent satanic cult. It was this situation that made higher-level CPS workers to step in. In east Texas a supposed satanic cult had been exposed. There were testimonies of ritual killings, drinking blood, cannibalism and more that were elicited from children from these foster parents. There were eight supposed cult members in custody awaiting trial and there were experts on Satanism and a special prosecutor working on the case.

At this point, CPS became concerned about the validity of these investigations, and the state attorney general was asked to get involved. At this point sixteen children had been taken from their homes and Dr. Perry decided to get involved. Dr. Perry was mainly concerned with determining if the children in custody had actually been victims of abuse from their parents. Many children were taken from their parents because of accusations from other children about abuse that they had been lead to “remember” during the investigation. To determine the truth, Dr. Perry and his team began to reconstruct the history of each child in custody. The entire issue began in 1989 when a man named Ward Vernon was accused by his then wife, Bette Vernon, of sexually abusing their two daughters. Both parents were soon implicated in the abuse and the children were placed in foster care. Unfortunately, Ward was only sentenced to probation. While on probation, Ward began living with a woman, Helen Karr Hill, who had five children. So when CPS determined where Ward was living, those five children were removed as well. Helen later gave up her parental rights. During the investigation, the children also accused their grandparents and their uncle, Bobby Vernon, of abuse and Bobby’s five children were removed from his home. Later two more children would join the others in foster care after accusations by the other children. Unfortunately, it is not that rare for there to be abuse spread throughout multiple generations of families and Dr. Perry did not see that CPS was unjust in removing those children from their homes as there was physical evidence of abuse in some cases. Terribly, it was the foster home placement that caused the real problems to begin. The children were placed in two fundamentalist Christian “therapeutic” foster homes. Two separate movements converged to form these especially volatile foster homes. The first movement was the “recovery movement” which included the idea that people could recall memories of abuse, which is the reason of their issues as an adult. The second movement was the rise in evangelical Christianity. This sect of Christianity firmly believed that the devil must be behind the widespread sexual atrocities that were present in society. To these Christians, there was no other plausible explanation as to why people would do such terrible things to children. These two movements combined to create a concept of Satanic Ritual Abuse that was seemingly the problem for the Vernon children. When these children were placed in foster care, the foster parents and caseworkers that were involved in the case had attended a seminar on SRA. At this time, none of the information about SRA had been tested sufficiently before they were publicized. It has now been determined that memories recalled while under hypnosis and even during therapy can be influenced by the therapist. While children rarely lie about sexual abuse, they can be led to concoct tales by adults, when in actuality the child is simply saying what they thought the adult wanted to hear. At this time another terrible form of treatment was being performed, called “holding therapy.” During this treatment, children would be tightly restrained in order to “open up” about their memories. Most terribly, if the child did not provide a convincing story of abuse, that child would be physically and verbally abused until he provided that story.

This practice was performed frequently on foster and adopted children. The foster parents who took in the Vernon children performed this “holding therapy” and even added their own additions to make it more “effective.” In actuality, the treatment of these children is what sometimes when people only have a little bit of knowledge about a problem and provide a “solution” that actually makes the problem worse. This “solution” is completely ineffective. As Dr. Perry states “using force or any type of coercion on traumatized, abused or neglected children is counterproductive: it simply retraumatizes them.” In this type of “therapy” does not create bonds of attachment, it created obedience through fear. This “trauma bond” now has a name, Stockholm Syndrome. In actuality, this treatment is not how trauma should be handled at all. Fortunately for Dr. Perry, all of these “treatments” were audio or videotaped. This allowed certain facts to emerge that allowed Dr. Perry to try to determine which children were actually abused, and whose parents were accused in order to appease their interrogators.

This was how Brian became one of the children in these foster homes. He was a bright young boy who lived with his parents and younger brother. From the media, Brian’s parents thought that they would be one of the next family’s accused of abuse. When CPS came to take him away, Brian went inside to warn his parents and he had to watch his parents be taken away in handcuffs. Brian was able to take one item from home. He chose his Bible. This should have been a clue that he was not being raised by a satanic cult.

With all this information, Dr. Perry then had to determine which children were abused and which were not. Where was the safest place to place these children? Their foster homes seemed to be as much of the problem as placing these children back with their possible abusers. Dr. Perry decided to use a continuous heart rate monitor. From previous experiences, Dr. Perry had determined that if children were exposed to something that caused them to recall their trauma, their heart rate would change dramatically, either increase with hyper arousal or decrease with a dissociative response. Dr. Perry tried this method with these children while asking them questions, but Dr. Perry repeatedly stressed that if there were something the child did not want to talk about, they would not discuss it. When Dr. Perry was talking with Brian, the experience of being taken away from his parents showed a major contrast in heart rate and behavior compared to his supposed confessions about a satanic cult and their actions. Dr. Perry’s testimony to a judge was ultimately what allowed Brian to return to his parents.

Determining what actually happened to the Vernon children would be more difficult. Some of these children had been abused, but their “confessions” about SRA had warped these children’s credibility and their parents could conceivably claim that none of what the children talked about had ever happened. Unfortunately, the town of Gilmer was still split about the satanic cult that supposedly occurred there. The original judge on the case and the grand jury had refused to drop the indictments, though another judge dropped many later. Ultimately, “without any evidence other than the coerced testimony of sixteen children, twentieth-century adults were ready to convict half a dozen people” that concept is absolutely frightening to me.

This chapter was very difficult for me to read and approach with an ethical concern. As a Christian, I am terrified that children were abused in Christian foster homes. I can understand the desire for many Christians to want to blame the devil for the absolutely terrible things that people can do to each other. It scares me that Christians are willing to coerce confessions of satanic cults out of scared and traumatized children. As someone who studies psychology, it scares me that a little bit of information about how the mind works and about supposed therapies can make a situation so much worse than it already was.

It is certainly easy to blame the devil for the evil things that people do to each other. I certainly believe that much of the behavior of people in regards to abuse can be because of our sinful nature and because of our separation from God and his goodness. I simply do not understand how this idea that the devil is behind all evil things in the world leads to the abuse of children in the hands of Christian foster parents. I almost see their abuse, seemingly in the name of God, as worse than the abuse that these children suffered in their homes. I know that it is terrible to say, but sometimes I believe that the actions that Christians take when trying to “help” actually causes more damage.

I honestly do not know what the solution to this problem is. In the past, I have truly believed that knowledge is power, but I now know that not enough knowledge, or the wrong kind of knowledge can be detrimental in society. I certainly believe that the foster parents and the CPS workers were trying to help. I know that they did not intentionally harm and retraumatize those children. I simply do not know how we make sure that children are receiving the right type of help instead of being harmed even more.

Chapter 6

Chapter six of The Boy Who was Raised as a Dog exposes the actual incidence that is described in the title of the book. When Dr. Perry met Justin he was a six-year-old boy who was in the hospital being treated for pneumonia. This pneumonia, however, seemed to be the least of the issues in regard to Justin. Dr. Perry was called in to analyze and address why Justin would throw food and feces at the staff. By this time, Dr. Perry had started to understand the sequential manner in which the brain develops and began to use this knowledge to treat traumatized and neglected children.

When Perry first saw Justin, he was in the pediatric intensive care unit (PICU) and was in a crib that had a plywood panel wired to the top of the crib to keep him from getting out. The little boy was filthy, rocking back and forth in his crib/cage and shrieking periodically. At this point, Perry realized that he would have to have a different approach to Justin’s treatment than he ever had in the past. Perry first decided to learn as much as he could about Justin.

Justin was born to a fifteen-year old girl who gave him up to her mother when he was two months old. Justin’s mother was a great caregiver and showered Justin with the attention and love that he needed. Unfortunately, when Justin was eleven months old, his grandmother got sick and passed away, leaving Justin with another massive change in his life. At this point, Justin’s grandmother’s boyfriend, Arthur, began caring for him. Not knowing how to raise a child, Arthur called CPS and asked that they find a foster home for Justin to live in. CPS, being entirely overrun, asked that Justin stay with Arthur until a suitable foster home was found.  Arthur was quiet and very patient and because there was seemingly not a crisis with Arthur taking care of Justin, CPS never found a foster home for him.

Arthur had no idea of how to raise a child, but did know how to raise and meet the needs of dogs because he was a breeder. So, Arthur used his knowledge of raising dogs in order to raise Justin. Justin was kept in a dog cage and was treated much like a person would treat their dog. He was given food, water, discipline, and some comfort, but this comfort was nothing compared to the comfort and stimulation that normal children receive. Essentially, Justin lived in a dog cage, with dogs as companions, for five years. Justin had been given a diagnosis of “static encephalopathy” which essentially meant that his brain had stopped growing and atrophied. Doctors thought that Justin had a rare, untreatable birth defect that made him the way that he was. No doctor, until Dr. Perry, considered asking about Justin’s living conditions.

At this point, Dr. Perry wasn’t sure if Justin’s lack of development was because of a lack of care and exposure to the right environments, or if he was in fact limited in his capacity to learn. Dr. Perry created a stable environment for Justin to live in within the PICU. The numbers of people to visit him were limited. Justin also began physical, occupational, and speech/language therapy. The change was dramatic. Within a week, Justin was standing with assistance. In three weeks, Justin was walking. The occupational therapist worked with Justin regarding self-care and appropriate behavior. Speech therapists exposed Justin to all of the words that he had missed growing up.

Within two weeks, Justin was able to leave the hospital and was placed with a foster family and over the next six months Justin made amazing progress. At this point, Justin was moved to a foster family that lived farther away from the hospital and Dr. Perry eventually lost track of him. Luckily, about two years after treating Justin, Dr. Perry received a letter from Justin’s foster family talking about how well he was doing and even included a picture of Justin holding a sign, written by Justin, that said “Thank you, Dr. Perry. Justin.” This seemingly miraculous recovery from neglect gave Dr. Perry and his colleagues hope and motivation about the treatment of severely neglected children.

In this chapter, Perry also presents the case of Conner. Conner was fourteen when he began seeing Dr. Perry to deal with severely maladaptive behavior. Connor was very odd but he was not schizophrenic or autistic. Of course, Dr. Perry discovered the entire history of Connor’s life. He had two attentive parents and came from a nuclear family. Connor’s mother Jane was a very nice woman, though she did not really know how to take care of a child, simply because she never really did it when she was growing up. Jane and her husband Mark lived in New Mexico, away from their extended family, when Conner was born. Jane and Mark ran their own business and both had to work, so they decided to hire a nanny. Jane’s cousin had recently moved to the area and needed a job so she became Connor’s nanny.

What Jane and Mark didn’t know was that Jane’s cousin also took another job to make more money. They didn’t know that she would feed and change Connor in the morning, go to her other job, come back and feed him lunch, then go back to her other job, and finally come back before Jane and Mark came home. She didn’t realize how detrimental her actions were towards Connor’s development. Connor eventually stopped crying when he was upset, because in the past when he had cried, no one came to help him. This lack of crying made Conner’s slightly ignorant parents think that he was fine. Over time, Conner’s parents noticed that he was not meeting developmental milestones and took him to the doctor. The doctor did not have much knowledge about diagnosing mental and emotional difficulties and really did not ask about that type of development. Jane and Mark were simply told that babies develop at different rates.

When Connor was about eighteen months old, Jane came home early and found Connor by himself. She fired the cousin and quit her job to stay home with him. She thought that she was lucky that nothing terrible happened. Unfortunately, Jane never connected Connor’s maladaptive behaviors with the neglect that he experienced for a year. Connor missed the stimulation and comforting that babies need during the first few months of their lives. Dr. Perry realized that this neglect at the beginning of his life is really what is responsible for his behavior as a fourteen-year old boy.

Dr. Perry had to take a developmentally sequential approach to treating Conner, much like he had with Justin. Unfortunately, because Conner had experienced neglect at such an early age, many of the sensory pathways that make people want to touch each other hadn’t really developed. Connor hated to be touched. Dr. Perry then began with massage therapy to gradually acclimate Connor to the physical touch that he had missed early in his life. Over the course of about a year, Connor’s parents and teachers began to see the real Conner, instead of only seeing his odd behavior. Dr. Perry then had to teach Connor many things about interacting with others. These lessons included: learning how to carry on a conversation, the appropriate amount of eye contact to maintain during a conversation, even to how to dress as a normal fourteen-year old boy should dress. Connor went on to graduate high school and college without any further outbursts. He would probably always be considered a little bit socially awkward simply because his abuse happened so early in his life.

This chapter provides striking examples of what can happen when children are neglected. I know that there are systems put in place like CPS to try to stop neglect and abuse. I also know that there are far more cases than CPS can handle. I think that this is the point where the Christian church can step in. The Bible has many passages about taking care of the widows and orphans in society. I think that these charitable acts should extend to all children, especially those who are neglected and abused. Unfortunately, the government cannot do it alone; there are simply too many cases. I think that the church and the Christian community can step in and help educate people about raising children without irreparably damaging them.

I know that there are many different opinions about how to raise children and that each family should be able to decide how to raise their children. Many also think that it isn’t their place to step in and help people who don’t really want any help. Let them raise their children the way they see fit. Children are supposed to obey their parents. I, however, think that parents also need to honor their children and educate themselves about raising children. Unfortunately, you do not have to pass a test in order to become a parent. Many issues would be solved if that were the case. I think it is the Christian communities’ responsibility to educate parents and to protect children when neglect and abuse occur. Our society today, especially our Christian society, needs to spend more time and effort towards our children. They are the future.